The Desmon and Butler Family Bat Mitzvah

The Desmon family of West Bloomfield, Michigan and the Butler family of Bloomfield Hills, Michigan, celebrated their daughters Sammi and Maddie’s B’not Mitzvah on October 1, 2016. Sammi and Maddie are first cousins and very close friends.

Sammi and Maddie had a custom acrylic invitation that was designed by Fran Krasne of You’re Invited Invitations of Parkland, Florida. The iridescent invitation was two sided – the front had the party information and the back had the girls’ names and initials. The envelope was lined with the same pattern as the back of the invitation and the envelope. The matching response card was a play off the girls’ initials.

The service was held at Temple Israel in West Bloomfield, Michigan. With the help of artist Michael Daitch, Sammi and Madison wove their own tallit. The tallit turned out beautifully and will be cherished by the girls forever!

The male guests received adorable emoji smiley face kippahs that were made by Randi Lehman of That One Special Touch in New York.

Sammi and Madison were thrilled to the have lots of family members participate in the service and give aliyahs including: their parents, Beth and Mike Desmon and Lisa and Dan Butler; grandparents, Fran Nagle, Jack Halifi, Kerry Nagle, Loretta and Michael Desmon, Barb and David Moss and Steve and Deborah Butler; siblings, Jake Desmon and Sydney and Jadyn Butler; and their aunts, uncles and cousins, Ericka, Andy, Noah and JB Beletskiy, Jennifer, Marc, Ryan and Charlie Mouradian and David and Charlotte Butler.

The service was especially beautiful because of their close family relationship. Both Sammi and Madison did a beautiful job reading from the torah.

Sammi and Madison’s party was held at The Diamond Center at the Suburban Collection Showplace, in Novi, Michigan.

Since the girls are first cousins, love neon and everything glow, their theme was ‘Cuz we Glow. To tie in the glow theme, the guest signed light up glow chairs instead of traditional sign in boards. The chairs were displayed in front of blow up pictures that were taken by Marty Abrin of Associates in Photography. Marty took incredible photos of the girls at locations around Detroit as well as the service and party.

While the adults had appetizers and cocktails of sushi, coconut shrimp, pigs in a blanket, veggie spring rolls, and more, which were served with custom napkins created by Stephanie Langwell of Grand Occasions in West Bloomfield, Michigan. The kids were escorted by a team of three Red Coat Ladies into the kid’s dinner room. Sammi and Maddie’s friends were immediately served dinner while close friends lined up to give speeches.

The kids also enjoyed the henna glam, in shades of neon, glitter, white and foil by An Affair to Remember and a green screen photo booth where they chose their own background by Michigan Events Services. When the speeches were done, Jamez Frederick of Cloud 9 Entertainment and his team of lots of dancers, made sure that the kids packed the dance floor.

Both the kids and adults were escorted into the glowing main ballroom, which was beautifully decorated in neon colors by Debbie LeClaire. Band Aid Entertainment did a spectacular job on the lighting and made sure that everything was glowing. Band Aid had two custom gobos with the girl’s logo, one on their white acrylic dance floor and one on the wall. The logo was created on Fiverr (and was only $5!). Neon up lighting and amazing lighting effects were used throughout the room. Band Aid created custom video mapping footage that was projected onto a spandex screen hanging from the truss behind the dance floor.

Once the adults were seated, the kids sat on the dance floor and white rounded lounge furniture which had custom logo pillows. The entrance video and montage created by Sam Silverstein of Lion Heart Productions was shown on the spandex screen. The families had so much fun creating the video.

After the montage and a short impromptu breakdancing show by the Cloud 9 dancers, Sammi and Madison made their grand entrance. The girls were escorted into their party by a LED glow stilt walking robot and for additional drama, Band Aid used co2 with cool lighting effects.

Once Sammi and Madison were in the room, the party started and never stopped! Jamez and his team at Cloud 9 made sure that the dance floor was packed.

Sammi and Maddie had a joint candle lighting of 10 candles, which included close family and friends.

After the hamotzi, the adults were served a strolling dinner which included a salad bar and Mexican, Greek and barbeque stations.

The kids enjoyed appetizers and danced the night away. The photo booth and henna were moved into the main ballroom. The kids enjoyed tons of glow items like hats, bunny ears, tenticle headbands, poop hats and finger lights from Gloworks. Prizes included a pair of Beats headphones, stuffed animals with the “Cuz we Glow logo, big candy bars, Roots and Nike Elite socks, pajama pants, big pillows, beanie hats, logo t-shirts and jumbo stuffed animals. The kids had a blast!

Sammi and her dad Mike and Maddie and her dad Dan performed a special daddy daughter dance that was chorographed by “Miss” Ericka Beletskiy, Sammi and Maddie’s aunt. The dance started as a traditional slow dance and turned into a fast and fun dance. The girls and the dads (even though they don’t want to admit it) had lots of fun doing their special dance.

The dessert table was opened toward the end of the night. Desserts included mini pasteries, a fruit display, an ice cream sundae bar and cupcake decorating, since both girls and their friends all LOVE frosting!!!

As Sammi and Maddie’s friends left, they received sweatshirts. The girls received a grey super soft zip up hoodie with the ‘Cuz we Glow logo. The boys received grey hooded sweatshirts with the girls initials – the University of Michigan M and the Michigan State S – with a slash between with date.

Beth and Lisa’s advice is to hire a day of event coordinator to make sure to make sure that you enjoy your child’s party. Beth and Lisa could not have made it through the evening without the help of the Red Coat Ladies. They were amazing and worth every penny (and more)!!!!

Also, make sure that you find good vendors. They think the best place to look for vendors is Mitzvah List.

It was such a special weekend for both families, especially since they were able to share such an incredible weekend with each other. They will remember Sammi and Maddie’s special day for the rest of their lives.

As part of Maddie’s Mitzvah Project, she has served as a youth ambassador and raised funds for JDRF, an organization that is near and dear to her heart. As part of Sammi’s Mitzvah Project, she was the team captian of a Relay for Life West Bloomfield team made up of her friends, where they raised funds for the American Cancer Society.

A special shout out to Dubin Cleaners, who saved the day for Sammi. After taking pictures on Friday, Sammi had make-up on her dress. After calling many cleaners that refused to help, Dubin Cleaners saved the day! They performed a true mitzvah by making sure Sammi's dress was perfect for her service. If you want your Mitzvah wardrobe cleaned or pressed, Dubin did a wonderful job! Plus, they clean tallit for free.